Comments on: The First Time Manager Dilemma, How Do You Gain Respect? http://askthemanager.com/2008/08/the-first-time-manager-dilemma-how-do-you-gain-respect/ Leadership Development & Management Training Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:45:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: TheManager http://askthemanager.com/2008/08/the-first-time-manager-dilemma-how-do-you-gain-respect/#comment-52094 TheManager Sat, 08 Aug 2009 16:30:34 +0000 http://askthemanager.com/?p=74#comment-52094 MM - Wow, what a situation you are facing... we did our best to effort a response to your questions and comments and posted them here: http://askthemanager.com/2009/08/young-managers-working-in-a-small-business-what-can-they-do-to-get-respect-from-below-and-above/ Best of luck and please let us know how everything turns out. TheManager MM – Wow, what a situation you are facing… we did our best to effort a response to your questions and comments and posted them here: http://askthemanager.com/2009/08/young-managers-working-in-a-small-business-what-can-they-do-to-get-respect-from-below-and-above/

Best of luck and please let us know how everything turns out.

TheManager

]]> By: MM http://askthemanager.com/2008/08/the-first-time-manager-dilemma-how-do-you-gain-respect/#comment-50751 MM Wed, 29 Jul 2009 00:50:25 +0000 http://askthemanager.com/?p=74#comment-50751 Hi I have stumbled across this site as I was searching for some help. Like the people above I am not only the manager but the youngest technician at my company. Unlike the people above I work in a small family owned salon where everyone is ontop of eachother all the time. Here are my concerns that I am hoping you will be able to help me with: 1} AS I mentioned I am the manager of the salon but unfortunatley I dont get any respect from some of the older employees as well as the employees that are around my age (25). It seems that no matter what I ask them to do or how I say it, as soon as my back is turned I am a "bitch"etc. MY requests usually go ignored until the very few times I have yelled at my employees. Which trust me is not many. I have worked for people that were demeaning and constantly yelling and my goal when getting this position was to be assertive but fair and never intimidating. It is getting to the point where if things dont change I might snap. I know I am young but I put in more paid and unpaid hours into the salon than any other employee. I work really hard to make us the thriving spa we are becoming and it frustrates me when people cannot reciprocate. I spend the majority of my time (when i am not with my own clients} ordering the supplies that the techs need, coming up with marketing ideas to make their books more solid, building our website, etc. But all i get back is arguments over why they have to do this special for the price i gave them when they wanna charge more, or complaints when things they need arent ordered ( they usually dont tell me what they need i have to figure it out myself) I am becoming resentful because i feel like I am constantly doing for them with no respect being given back to me. With the employees that are my age i am just blatinly ignored or told I am being a bitch. But when everyone wants something i.e. to leave early or come in late the next day ,all the sudden they are calling me "Miss Manager.." How do I get the respect I not only desire but deserve? 2} My boss is way to nice to everyone. It really is out of control. I love her and consider her a great friend but at the same time my role as manager has been blurred by her as well. Sometimes I feel like I am not the manager just her personal assistant. She doesnt want me to reprimand employees when it needs to happen. How do I establish with her what my role as manager is? I have asked her this questiong before with no real answer. I dont think its fair for me to be telling the staff what to do but unable to say anything when things are not getting done. It would be one thing if she delt with the issues but she is way to nice for that. I get upset because the employees take advantage of her and I dont like watching that happen without being able to do anything about it. Please help!!! Hi I have stumbled across this site as I was searching for some help. Like the people above I am not only the manager but the youngest technician at my company. Unlike the people above I work in a small family owned salon where everyone is ontop of eachother all the time. Here are my concerns that I am hoping you will be able to help me with:

1} AS I mentioned I am the manager of the salon but unfortunatley I dont get any respect from some of the older employees as well as the employees that are around my age (25). It seems that no matter what I ask them to do or how I say it, as soon as my back is turned I am a “bitch”etc. MY requests usually go ignored until the very few times I have yelled at my employees. Which trust me is not many. I have worked for people that were demeaning and constantly yelling and my goal when getting this position was to be assertive but fair and never intimidating. It is getting to the point where if things dont change I might snap.
I know I am young but I put in more paid and unpaid hours into the salon than any other employee. I work really hard to make us the thriving spa we are becoming and it frustrates me when people cannot reciprocate. I spend the majority of my time (when i am not with my own clients} ordering the supplies that the techs need, coming up with marketing ideas to make their books more solid, building our website, etc. But all i get back is arguments over why they have to do this special for the price i gave them when they wanna charge more, or complaints when things they need arent ordered ( they usually dont tell me what they need i have to figure it out myself)
I am becoming resentful because i feel like I am constantly doing for them with no respect being given back to me. With the employees that are my age i am just blatinly ignored or told I am being a bitch. But when everyone wants something i.e. to leave early or come in late the next day ,all the sudden they are calling me “Miss Manager..”

How do I get the respect I not only desire but deserve?

2} My boss is way to nice to everyone. It really is out of control. I love her and consider her a great friend but at the same time my role as manager has been blurred by her as well. Sometimes I feel like I am not the manager just her personal assistant. She doesnt want me to reprimand employees when it needs to happen.

How do I establish with her what my role as manager is?

I have asked her this questiong before with no real answer. I dont think its fair for me to be telling the staff what to do but unable to say anything when things are not getting done. It would be one thing if she delt with the issues but she is way to nice for that. I get upset because the employees take advantage of her and I dont like watching that happen without being able to do anything about it.

Please help!!!

]]> By: TheManager http://askthemanager.com/2008/08/the-first-time-manager-dilemma-how-do-you-gain-respect/#comment-35718 TheManager Mon, 01 Jun 2009 00:45:08 +0000 http://askthemanager.com/?p=74#comment-35718 AC, We're glad to hear things are working out for you, though we're worried about your current situation. To see our advice, please follow this link: http://askthemanager.com/2009/05/meet-the-new-boss-same-as-the-old-boss-dealing-with-a-new-boss/. AC,

We’re glad to hear things are working out for you, though we’re worried about your current situation. To see our advice, please follow this link: http://askthemanager.com/2009/05/meet-the-new-boss-same-as-the-old-boss-dealing-with-a-new-boss/.

]]> By: AngelCakes http://askthemanager.com/2008/08/the-first-time-manager-dilemma-how-do-you-gain-respect/#comment-35717 AngelCakes Mon, 01 Jun 2009 00:23:57 +0000 http://askthemanager.com/?p=74#comment-35717 I just wanted to send you the next challenge in the never-ending life that is retail management. But not without a little update first. Let me first add that the childishness of my store is no more. The resources that you gave me have left a huge impression in my memory and I practice what you preach every day. My staff has converted themselves into a well-oiled machine. They seek out the greater good and the bigger picture and that’s when everyone gets along the worlds a better place. The store itself has been running at full speed with a 25% increase in sales year-to-date (which is fantastic considering how "financially unstable" the world claims to be). All has been calm on the home front, and I have felt nothing but enthusiastic about the future and our successes and I strive to push the bar every day. Until now I have not come to this mountain and I think that it is going to be my biggest challenge to date: Welcome the New Regional! Most recently there has been a major rift in the tide at my supervisors’ level and they transferred my previous regional supervisor to the east coast, hired outside of the company a man with 35 years experience in the jewelry business, and made him the new regional supervisor. Needless to say the practices that my new regional demonstrates compared to my old one are dramatic and have everyone running for the hills and looking for new jobs. Demanding? Yes. Extremely high expectations? Yes. Respect and value for his new employees? No. His reputation goes without saying that his employees are just numbers: that they are a dime a dozen and are expendable. He is overseeing every little thing that we as managers are doing, including hiring our own staff. I can understand his obsessive nature over sales and trying to make a good impression to his superiors, but he has taken almost any freedom that we have and are starting to find resentment in him because of it. Tomorrow he is flying in to oversee my hiring of a manager from another company to work for our store that I was extremely excited about until he said that I wasn't allowed to hire him until "he met him first." I feel like he is doing my job for me instead of letting me do the job that I was entrusted with. I also feel that he is hovering over my shoulder too much and that it is putting unnecessary pressure on me and my staff. Instead of over-boasting like every other manager is doing to catch his attention, how can I address the situation with my new boss and still make a good impression and respect his position? I just wanted to send you the next challenge in the never-ending life that is retail management. But not without a little update first. Let me first add that the childishness of my store is no more. The resources that you gave me have left a huge impression in my memory and I practice what you preach every day. My staff has converted themselves into a well-oiled machine. They seek out the greater good and the bigger picture and that’s when everyone gets along the worlds a better place. The store itself has been running at full speed with a 25% increase in sales year-to-date (which is fantastic considering how “financially unstable” the world claims to be). All has been calm on the home front, and I have felt nothing but enthusiastic about the future and our successes and I strive to push the bar every day. Until now I have not come to this mountain and I think that it is going to be my biggest challenge to date: Welcome the New Regional!

Most recently there has been a major rift in the tide at my supervisors’ level and they transferred my previous regional supervisor to the east coast, hired outside of the company a man with 35 years experience in the jewelry business, and made him the new regional supervisor. Needless to say the practices that my new regional demonstrates compared to my old one are dramatic and have everyone running for the hills and looking for new jobs. Demanding? Yes. Extremely high expectations? Yes. Respect and value for his new employees? No.

His reputation goes without saying that his employees are just numbers: that they are a dime a dozen and are expendable. He is overseeing every little thing that we as managers are doing, including hiring our own staff. I can understand his obsessive nature over sales and trying to make a good impression to his superiors, but he has taken almost any freedom that we have and are starting to find resentment in him because of it. Tomorrow he is flying in to oversee my hiring of a manager from another company to work for our store that I was extremely excited about until he said that I wasn’t allowed to hire him until “he met him first.” I feel like he is doing my job for me instead of letting me do the job that I was entrusted with. I also feel that he is hovering over my shoulder too much and that it is putting unnecessary pressure on me and my staff. Instead of over-boasting like every other manager is doing to catch his attention, how can I address the situation with my new boss and still make a good impression and respect his position?

]]> By: TheManager http://askthemanager.com/2008/08/the-first-time-manager-dilemma-how-do-you-gain-respect/#comment-20130 TheManager Sun, 08 Feb 2009 23:23:09 +0000 http://askthemanager.com/?p=74#comment-20130 Anant, every now and then a comment or question is so in depth or so unique that it requires an entire post to respond properly. Your's was just such a comment. Thank you for your comment and please read our response here: http://askthemanager.com/2009/02/young-owner-old-manager-who-wins-in-the-end/. Anant, every now and then a comment or question is so in depth or so unique that it requires an entire post to respond properly. Your’s was just such a comment. Thank you for your comment and please read our response here: http://askthemanager.com/2009/02/young-owner-old-manager-who-wins-in-the-end/.

]]> By: anant http://askthemanager.com/2008/08/the-first-time-manager-dilemma-how-do-you-gain-respect/#comment-20062 anant Sun, 08 Feb 2009 08:26:34 +0000 http://askthemanager.com/?p=74#comment-20062 hi, i am facing a similar problem as mentioned above with one of my older employees, the only difference is that i am the owner of my company. Last year i joined my father`s company after finishing my engineering and have started to handle the correspondence and marketing of the company. Initially i thought because i was a new, they treated me as like a new kid on the block and would probably fade out once i am long enough with the organization. Most of them did change, apart from our general manager. He still thinks he is an authority over me. I didn't mind his reactions till the time recently when my father had gone out for an industrial trip. He had asked me to get some work done before he comes, which were like level1 jobs and could easily be done on the phone/personally meeting, nothing laborious. Its been almost 3 days since i told him and he has still not been able to complete the task. Apart from this whenever i tell him something he looks at me, giving me that expression " why is he telling me? who is he to tell me?" This behavior of his has actually ticked me off. Kindly give me a solution to handle such kind of employee hi, i am facing a similar problem as mentioned above with one of my older employees, the only difference is that i am the owner of my company.
Last year i joined my father`s company after finishing my engineering and have started to handle the correspondence and marketing of the company.
Initially i thought because i was a new, they treated me as like a new kid on the block and would probably fade out once i am long enough with the organization.
Most of them did change, apart from our general manager. He still thinks he is an authority over me. I didn’t mind his reactions till the time recently when my father had gone out for an industrial trip. He had asked me to get some work done before he comes, which were like level1 jobs and could easily be done on the phone/personally meeting, nothing laborious. Its been almost 3 days since i told him and he has still not been able to complete the task. Apart from this whenever i tell him something he looks at me, giving me that expression ” why is he telling me? who is he to tell me?”

This behavior of his has actually ticked me off.
Kindly give me a solution to handle such kind of employee

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